Harriet DeCoste (Rudy)

Harriet DeCoste (Rudy)

December 31, 2025

Irondequoit, NY

Passed away suddenly, at age 69.

Predeceased by her parents Walter and Jean Rudy and brother Richard Pakusch. Harriet is survived by her three children, Bianca (William) Gauthier, Catrina (Kurt) Rebstock and Alex DeCoste; grandchildren Jacob & Domonique Gauthier; brothers Michael and Stanley Rudy; sister Helen Rudy-Sarfaty; as well as many special nieces, nephews, cousins and dear friends.

Harriet will be most remembered for her kind and generous heart. She spent her life serving others, the early years as a talented and passionate lead chef at several successful downtown restaurants and later in life she entered into the medical field where she compassionately cared for the physically and mentally disabled until her retirement from Rochester Psychiatric Center.

She poured every ounce of her being into working hard and raising her children while also helping many souls in need throughout her years. Her life was a testament to resilience, proving that one person could build a home filled with stability, laughter and love through sheer determination and a generous spirit.

A memorial service followed by celebration of Harriet’s life will be held on Saturday January 31st 2026 at the Spies Conference Center at Camp Eastman Park, 1301 Lakeshore Blvd. Irondequoit, NY from 1:00 PM until.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Wounded Warrior Project, Project Smile or St. Jude Children’s Hospital, all charities near and dear to Harriet.